In Honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month – When Is It Rape?

Presented by Jessica Yaffa, Author, Speaker, and Survivor Over 80% of sexual assault survivors report knowing their perpetrator. Even more, thousands of young men and women also express feelings of confusion surrounding the existence of rape within the context of relationship. Jessica will share her experiences around her own misconceptions about her being raped, while…

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Ringing in the New Year

As we approach the New Year many of us tend to spend time reflecting on the previous months. I’m reminded of the many years I spent reviewing all of the ways in which I had failed, what I wish I could have changed, the guilt I felt surrounding my circumstances, and the deficiency I had…

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Oranges Make Orange Juice

I was inspired to write this post after meeting with a colleague where we discussed the dynamic surrounding survivors of domestic violence blaming themselves for the violent outbursts displayed by their partner. I began to express my own experiences around self-blame, of which I’ve had many, when he stopped me. My colleague then shared a…

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Redefining Justice

I’ve had countless conversations with women around this idea that the only form of justice suitable for an abusive partner results from the action taken by the criminal justice system. I’d like to challenge each of us to begin to think differently about this. I’m all too familiar with the feelings associated with not feeling…

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No More Shame

As I prepare for the upcoming conference at SDSU this coming Saturday I spend some time reflecting on my journey, and which pieces of it I’ll choose to share with the young adults I’ll be speaking to, with the intention of creating opportunities for conversation and learning. In doing so I’m reminded of the many…

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Myths Surrounding Domestic Violence

Whenever I begin a presentation or workshop I spend some time discussing the myths and stereotypes that exist surrounding domestic violence… Who does this happen to? What ethnic groups/religions/socio economic classes are most likely to be victimized? What are the backgrounds of those that find themselves in abusive relationships? Unfortunately, the answers to each of…

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