Board Members

Our board members are dedicated to reducing domestic violence nationwide and to helping victims in need.

Jessica Yaffa, President

president of domestic violence nonprofitJessica Yaffa is a survivor of extreme domestic violence and has transformed a set of extremely traumatic circumstances into a triumphant story. Ms. Yaffa has spent the past two decades working in the social services field, with the intention of coming alongside those who have experienced relationship trauma in its’ various forms. In addition to her professional roles, Jessica is the co-founder and President of NoSilence NoViolence, Inc., a non-profit committed to providing education, training, resources, and community development in order to eliminate stigma surrounding relationship abuse and sexual assault, while creating awareness, shifting perspectives, and facilitating change around the way we talk about domestic violence.

Ms.Yaffa has also recently created a unique and innovative training program titled RVARS (Relationship Violence Assessment and Response Specialist) and travels the country offering this program to first responders, clinicians, military advocates, and more. Jessica currently serves as the President of the San Diego Domestic Violence Council and has been featured on both television and in print as one of the leading experts surrounding this topic.

Shiloh Reed, Vice-President

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Shiloh Reed comes to us with seven years’ experience working directly with domestic violence survivors. Shiloh graduated from CSU San Marcos with a Bachelor’s degree in Human Development and an emphasis in Counseling Services. Ms. Reed obtained her Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at Alliant International University in 2010. She knew she wanted to work directly with clients in crisis. After working in the eating disorder recovery field for 5 years,Shiloh saw a tremendous crossover between trauma and addiction. She decided to make a shift in her work focus and began working with trauma survivors. In 2010 she worked closely with survivors of sexual assault and relationship violence. She has experience working therapeutically in emergency shelters, group therapy and individual therapy. Shiloh has also volunteered with the HEALING Ministry at The Rock Church, where she was connected with Jessica.  She has helped to build the curriculum for support groups, and launched a teenage healthy relationships group for what is now Jessica’s non-profit, “NoSilence NoViolence.”

Ms. Reed holds the position of Vice President on the non-profit’s Board of Directors, with her heart and passion being the pursuit of prevention, awareness and education among our younger generations in hopes to help break the cycle early on in relationship building.

 Ellen Yaffa, Board Member

ellen yaffa board member Retired  after  a 40-year career in social services in both the public and nonprofit sectors. Experience ranges from health and human services in Northern California and the Congressional Research Service at the Library of Congress, to community activism and leadership roles with nonprofit organizations devoted to improving schools, strengthening families, and responding to neighborhood needs. Retired from SAY San Diego (Social Advocates for Youth) in 2014. Masters Degree in Social Work obtained from SDSU. Community service includes serving on several nonprofit Boards of Directors and  managing local school board campaigns to help qualified candidates get elected.



Attorney Ben Aguilar, Board Member

ben aguilar board member domestic violence non profitAttorney Ben Aguilar is the owner and founder of the Law Offices of Ben Aguilar in downtown San Diego. His law practice focuses on Family Law and Immigration Law cases.

Prior to starting his solo practice, Mr. Aguilar worked for the Spanish Justice Department in Barcelona, Spain where he helped victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. He also clerked at the Center for International Protection in Moscow, Russia helping provide legal aid to Russian nationals who were victims of human-rights violations. During this clerkship, Mr. Aguilar became proficient in filing complaints before the European Court of Human Rights. Mr. Aguilar clerked at the American Civil Liberties Union of San Diego and Imperial Counties for two years where he assisted in the prosecution of Franco Gonzalez v. Holder, a class action case that secured the right to appointed legal representation for individuals with mental illnesses who are locked in immigration detention facilities and facing the possibility of deportation.

Mr. Aguilar is currently the co-president of the Tom Homann LGBT Law Association. Mr. Aguilar also serves on the board of directors of the San Diego La Raza Lawyers Association (SDLRLA) and the local non-profit No Silence No Violence. Mr. Aguilar is also co-chair of the Professional Advancement Committee and the Ethnic Relations & Diversity Committee of the San Diego County Bar Association.

Mr. Aguilar has been recognized three years in a row by San Diego Magazine as one of the Latinos Making a Difference in the City of San Diego for his volunteer work with victims of domestic violence and for his work on both sides of the U.S./Mexican border. Mr. Aguilar was also a finalist in the 2013 San Diego Young Attorneys and a semi-finalist in the 2013 and 2014 San Diego Daily Transcript Top Attorneys in both Family Law and Immigration Law. Mr. Aguilar was recognized by the San Diego Business Journal as one of the “Best of the Bar” in 2014, 2015 and 2016.

Mr. Aguilar was recently named as one of the Best LGBT Lawyers Under 40 (Class of 2016) by the National LGBT Bar Association. He was also recently recognized by the American Bar Association as one of the top 40 young attorneys. Mr. Aguilar was named by San Diego Metro Magazine as one of the 40 Under 40 in 2015. Mr. Aguilar recently received the Outstanding Community Service Award from the San Diego County Bar Association for his contributions to the San Diego legal community.

Bonnie Reveley, Board Member

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Bonnie Reveley is a post-secondary counselor who supports students in their personal and academic journey. Her work in the field of education has provided her national and international opportunities to work with students as they identify their strengths, define their passions, and create plans to pursue and achieve their personal and academic goals.  Bonnie provides early career planning and comprehensive college admissions counseling at Fusion Academy in Solana Beach and holds a bachelor’s degree in Family and Consumer Science from The Master’s College, a certificate in college counseling from the University of California at San Diego (UCSD), and a certificate in educational therapy from the National Institute of Learning Development (NILD). Bonnie partnered with Jessica Yaffa in 2015 and is honored to support  the mission of NSNV, participate on the Board of Directors, and be a voice against domestic violence and sexual assault in our community.

Heather Heavey, Board Member

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